I hope every woman and every girl knows that you’re not more akin to men than you are to other women/girls just because of what your interests and/or hobbies are. Just because you like clothes traditionally worn by men doesn’t mean you’re more like them than other woman. Just because you like video games or anime or sports or other women or getting dirty or roughhousing or working with your hands or beer or gaining muscle or what the fuck ever doesn’t mean that you’re anything like a man. It does nothing to ally yourself with men and convince yourself that other women are nothing like you. You are alienating yourself. There are women who will accept and love you and be attracted to you (if that’s what you want). I know it can be difficult to hold that belief, but I promise that finding women who are like you is far too rewarding to give up on. There are other women like you. The proof is you yourself. You are not so unique that you’re the only woman on the planet to have your exact traits. That belief robs you of so many rich friendships with other women who you can relate to in ways you never could with a man. Those women are waiting to meet you, too. Friendships with other women is so so so important. Being like other girls is the eight wonder of the world and I wish more women understood that.
I’ve been feeling quite bad about my art for a while now and I decided to compile some of my Realm of the Elderlings fanarts as a reminder to myself that I’ve never drawn this much in a single year before (and it’s not even August yet) and that being hard on myself won’t get me anywhere. If anything, it only kills the motivation to draw. Hopefully it gets better, because there’s so much I wanna draw!
the whole “please affirm me, please validate me, please tell me i am who i say i am or else i will feel bad” thing over the past decade is batshit insanity when you really stop to think about it. imagine if a black woman asking you to validate her existence as a black woman. or to please affirm her that she is nigerian, or was born on the southwestern part of america. or to tell her she is, in fact, a paraplegic, when we can both clearly see she is disabled in that specific way.
if that’s hard or strange for you to imagine, that’s because it doesn’t happen and it doesn’t need to happen. she already knows who she is. she doesn’t need to be told what she looks like or where she’s come from or what groups she belongs in; she’s living her reality as is, with zero inputs or qualifiers from people outside of her.
like i am telling you as someone who suffers from psychosis and hallucinations that you’re all acting fucking ridiculous. everyday i look in the mirror and see who i am, no matter how i might feel about it or how much i wish could change. i look down at my body and know i am a woman. the world already affirms this to me daily by the sexism i experience, day in and day out. i don’t need to be told what my reality is. why do you need that affirmation?
it’s because you know you’re lying. be so fucking for real.
The truth doesn’t need constant validation and affirmation. It just IS.
Getting married at 21, 22, 23 is actually unhinged behavior I personally want to go to each of these weddings and drag that poor woman away and take her to the club
“im so happy to see women celebrating femininity at the theaters” girl shut the hell up
we need to remove the word femininity from our language. people are using it as a socially appropriate way to defend female submission in the patriarchy. all this feminine energy stuff is psyop bullshit.
MarÃa Fernández Sánchez has been missing since july 22 in Berlin. She is a mexican woman that was studying her Masters degree in Berlin, Germany. Please spread this.
